Embracing My Introversion: Why I Stopped Fighting Who I Am

Have you ever asked yourself, “Why do I enjoy spending time alone more than with others?” Or, “Why do I crave being alone so much?” Maybe even, “Is there something wrong with me? I must just hate people.”

These are just a few questions I’ve asked myself countless times as an introvert—or maybe an introverted extrovert. I’m not exactly sure which one I am, but one thing I do know for sure is this: I’m an introvert by nature.

I made this discovery a few years ago when I took a personality test. The results said, in bold letters, INTROVERT. Then I took another test—same result. And another. Same thing. You get the picture. So, naturally, I asked myself: Can I change this?

That question led me down a rabbit hole of research on how to become an extrovert. I found all kinds of advice, but the most common tip I saw was: Get a sales job.

And that’s exactly what I did.

When You Force Yourself to Be Someone You’re Not…

The funny thing is, I had already worked multiple customer service jobs—first in the Navy as a retail specialist, and even back to my very first job at Little Caesar’s. Yet, I still craved alone time more than social time.

But sales? That was different.

I became a realtor, which meant my success depended on people. Calling people, marketing to people, networking with people, negotiating with people—literally everything revolved around people. It was exhausting.

To make a long story short: I burned out. 😮‍💨

Every time I tried again, the same thing happened. But through this process, I noticed something interesting…

I loved the behind-the-scenes work—the creative side of real estate. Designing flyers, writing social media posts, crafting marketing content… That part energized me. The part where I had to constantly “sell myself” to strangers? Not so much.

Owning My Strengths Instead of Fighting My Weaknesses

That’s when I had a realization: I was spending all my energy trying to “fix” my weaknesses instead of doubling down on my strengths.

So I took a step back and did a full self-assessment. I looked at my past successes, my natural talents, and what actually felt right to me.

And one thing stood out: Writing has always been my thing. ✍🏾

Instead of forcing myself into roles that drained me, I finally leaned into the gifts God gave me. And that’s why I do what I do today.

What About You?

Maybe you’ve been trying to force yourself to fit into a mold that doesn’t align with who you truly are. Maybe you’ve been spending more time fixing “weaknesses” than sharpening your strengths.

If that’s you, I encourage you to take a step back. Do a self-assessment. Ask yourself: What comes naturally to me? What do I actually enjoy? Then start moving in that direction.

And if you want more encouragement on embracing your strengths and purpose, check out my latest YouTube video. 🎥

👉🏾 Watch it here: [5 Reasons Why Introverts Are So Atrractive]

Remember, you don’t have to change who you are to be successful. You just have to embrace it.

– Rasta White